About Ilaria
Ilaria Calussi is a counsellor who helps people untangle relationship and parenting difficulties. They support individuals coping with trauma, ADHD-related struggles, and the strain of separation or abandonment. Sessions are offered in English and Italian and can be held online for international clients.
Calussi brings 25 years of experience in community and clinical settings across the United Kingdom. Their background includes work with charities and the NHS, and teaching in higher education.
Background and approach
This range of roles informs a flexible, practical way of working with day-to-day problems. In session, they use somatic ideas alongside attachment and client-centred approaches. That means attention to how the body holds stress, and to patterns of relating that affect current difficulties.
Therapy often includes talking, noticing physical reactions, and trying small changes between sessions. Their work also draws on cognitive-behavioural and emotionally-focused methods when helpful. These approaches are used to reduce unhelpful thinking, calm overwhelming feelings, and improve communication.
The aim is clearer understanding and more effective coping strategies. Calussi’s lived experience as a solo parent and as a neurodivergent, queer person informs their practical, down-to-earth style. They aim to build a collaborative space where people can explore difficult events, strengthen relationships, and find ways to feel steadier in everyday life.
How different approaches work online
Somatic-informed work pays attention to bodily sensations and how tension shows up in daily life. Online sessions can include simple grounding exercises and guided body awareness to help people notice and ease physical stress linked to relationships or trauma.Attachment-based work looks at patterns of relating and how early experiences shape present connections. Online conversations explore those patterns and aim to bring clearer understanding of how people react in close relationships and parenting situations.
A client-centred approach keeps the person’s needs and perspective at the heart of sessions. The counsellor listens without judgement and follows what matters most to the client while offering gentle reflections and practical suggestions.
Choosing the right mix of approaches is part of the work together. The counsellor collaborates with each person to match methods to goals, preferences and what feels useful in practice. That means plans can shift as understanding grows and needs change over time.
Online therapy offers practical flexibility through video calls, phone sessions, live chat and text-based messaging. These options make it easier to fit counselling around work, family and travel. They also allow continued contact when in-person meetings are difficult, while keeping the focus on building coping skills, improving communication and managing stress.
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Specialties and expertise
Top specialties
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
Also works with
- Abandonment
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Blended family issues
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Immigration issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Somatization
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 25 years
- Licensed
- Languages
- English, Italian